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It had seemed impossible, yet he did it. Most people's goals seem impossible. Who thinks he can write the great American novel? Yet every year books are written by improbable people.
The worst thing that can happen to you is that a little failure makes you so timid you are afraid to dream, afraid to have goals -- big goals. This minute write down the goals that would mean the most to you. Make a list. As many as you like. What ever your goals are -- start now -- not tomorrow! Study what you need to know, look into problems of going into business for yourself, etc.
10. WHAT WOULD I DO IF I LOST MY JOB? This may seem like a strange question to ask, but you should have an answer. Most people worry now and then -- and some worry excessively -- about what they would do if they were fired or if their job was abolished. Usually the worst does not happen. But, the response to fear is to have an answer, an alternative. White down what you would do if you did receive that pink slip. Make out a list of the places you would go to find another job and perhaps a better job. Jot down things you could do to earn some money while you were waiting for a job to come through. If you do not have any side skills, isn't it time that you developed some?
11. AM I OVER SENSITIVE? If you are, you probably feel that no one should disagree with you. That is, no one has the right to be careless of your feelings. In other words, you are vain. You have to be practical. Even a rose comes to you with thorns on it. So does life, full of thorns. You cannot say the rose is no good, or life is no good because of the thorns. To be practical, you must tell yourself that people are going to be careless of your feelings, sometimes intentionally and sometimes unintentionally. What can you do about it? You can desensitize yourself and promise yourself that no one can demoralize you or make you lose confidence in yourself.
12. AM I TOO CONCEITED? People who are conceited are covering up for an inferiority complex. A person who has achieved great things has no need to feel conceited. Almost without exception, great people are humble and modest. People who are conceited lose friends rapidly. They make themselves obnoxious. They are always pointing out subtly or bluntly how much better they are than other people. They tend to display all kinds of prejudices that are their way of pointing out how superior they are.
13. AM I IMMATURE? The immature person has the traits of a child who has not learned to control his or her desires, emotions and thinking. They are selfish, lack emotional control and wise judgment. They want everything their way. They sulk and pout. In other words, they do what you would expect a very young child to do.
Being mature, on the other hand, is synonymous with being wise, acting with wisdom, exercising self-control, and thinking things through without too much emotion. It means showing tolerance and understanding -- knowing how the other person feels and explaining why you are taking the position you are.
14. AM I A CHRONIC COMPLAINER? The chronic complainer is sabotaging both his physical and his mental health. He becomes a hypochondriac. He believes everyone is against him or perhaps the world has singled him out for all its bad luck. The chronic complainer will find justification for each complaint. He will finally conclude, no one understands him and no one is on his side. Chronic complainers are unhappy people. They will overlook a multitude of good things to find one flaw. This is not to say, there are not situations in life when it is necessary to offer constructive suggestions. But you must distinguish between normal complaining that is reasonable, and neurotic, excessive and unreasonable complaining whereby a person complains for the sake of complaining.
15. DO I ACT LIKE A SPENDTHRIFT OR A STINGY PERSON? If you are either, you are suffering from insecurity. Persons who are frustrated, who have not found love, may be reckless with money. They buy what ever they see and like, whether they can afford it or not. People who are always in debt are disorganized in their thinking. They handle money like they handle their emotions.
Borrowers of money want something from other people. They want others to support them, as it they were entitled to it. They do not want to assume the responsibility of earning their own way through life. They like to involve other people in their problems. This is a substitute for their search for love.
Persons who are over generous to a fault may be inspired by a desire to buy the love of other people. They want to be well thought of. They want everyone indebted to them in an effort to keep their friendship.
The person who cannot give anything to anyone, who is called a skinflint by those who know him, cannot give anything else of value either, especially love. He cannot get over the hurt he has suffered, generally in childhood, of not receiving enough love himself. Now he is bitter and will not give love, or material things.
16. DO I HARBOR STRONG PREJUDICES? What has been said about people that are conceited applies to persons who are prejudiced. It is evidence of their own insecurity. Individuals that have strong prejudices achieve a false sense of superiority by believing they are better than some other person or group of people. Prejudice is also a cover up for fear and jealousy. We become prejudiced against people we fear, people whom we believe may threaten our own sense of security.
Prejudice leads to hatred, which in turn causes a person to become emotionally disturbed. You become the victim of hate, much more than the thing hated. Prejudice is the product of false thinking. You can have likes and dislikes without making blanket prejudices of them that are unreasonable and only hurt yourself.
17. DO I WORRY TOO MUCH? Worrying to excess is a habit that is learned. Habits are not inherited. You were not born to worry. Like all bad habits, the worry habit can be de-conditioned. Develop a feeling of emotional self-confidence, a belief in yourself and any worry will disappear.
The rest of the questions are given without comment. Think about them and decide it they are problems that are keeping you from achieving happiness. You may have other areas you would like to work on. If so, write them down.
18. DO I DRINK TOO MUCH?
19. AM I LIVING IN THE PAST?
20. DO I HAVE MORBID FEARS?
|The instructions presented are from the personal collections and writing library of Mr. Robert E. Cutter, who died December 13, 2001, while in the process of completing the transfer of his work to the internet. These are offered as educational instruction only. The purpose of this instruction is the effective learning and use of hypnotic techniques for vocational or avocational self-improvement. This instruction is not offered as a substitute for, nor as a supplement to, any form of therapy concerned with physical, mental, nervous or emotional illness. Robert E. Cutter served as web consultant for American Psychotherapy and Medical Hypnosis Association for three years. His hypnosis education came through the training he provided at a school he owned in the 1950's in Los Angeles, California, along with his wife who preceded him in death in 1980. Robert Cutter was not a psychologist and did not practice psychotherapy, but his interest in hypnosis motivated him to provide free resources materials for others who wanted to learn to use the power of their minds to improve well being and health-related issues.|
Michael A. Robinson, R.N.- BC Psychiatry
Licensed Texas State Nursing Board Registered Nurse
Texas State Nursing Board Certified in Psychiatry
In Honor and Memory of Robert E. Cutter, B.S. 1923-d.2001
From the Writings of Robert Cutter's Self Hypnosis Center
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