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THE OLD ADMONITION, "Know Thy-self," is of the utmost importance. The following list of twenty questions is given to you as a guide only. The aim and purpose you have in learning self-hypnosis may be different than those of someone else. For this reason it is impossible to give specific questions to fit the needs of everyone. None of the following questions may apply to you; they are given to give you an idea of what to look for in yourself.
Self-knowledge is not won without effort. The habits and attitudes you have acquired over many years cannot be changed over night. Some things can be accomplished very quickly and ordinarily the time in self-therapy will not be long. The natural tendency on the part of most students will be to attack their worst problems or conditions first. This is what they are most concerned about. This is a mistake! It is very important to begin with minor matters first. The reason for this is, minor conditions are easier to correct. Success with them encourages you and doubts are eased. As you develop a more positive way of thinking, you will meet less resistance in changing more important conditions.
1. WHAT KIND OF PERSON AM I? You should write a thumbnail sketch of how you see yourself. After you have done that, you should outline that others say you are. For example, if people are always telling you, "My you are moody," write it down. If they say, "You have a nice voice, you should be on radio," write it down. Also, write out how you see yourself physically. Then do the same for how others see you. Do you think what they say is true?
2. WRITE OUT WHAT YOU CONSIDER ARE YOUR GOOD POINTS. "I never lose my temper," or "I am kind to children," or "I always try to help others." If you should feel discouraged while answering any of the following questions, you should refer back to this list. You will find you are really not so bad!
3. DO I GET ALONG WITH MOST PEOPLE? If you are always feuding with others it is a sure indication that you are not getting along with yourself either. You may be projecting the blame on other people, or trying to change other people instead of yourself. Also, you may be over sensitive. When you learn to radiate tolerance, understanding and forgiveness, you will be amazed at how quickly other people's attitudes toward you will change.
4. AM I TOO SHY? Every person is somewhat shy. Even a king. There is a certain normal shyness. It is excessive shyness that is a liability; it blocks you from being yourself as soon as someone else is around. The shy person is afraid he will not be well received and accepted. Shyness is a form of self-protection. If you don't stick your neck out, you can't be hurt. Consequently the shy person becomes uncommunicative and cannot relax around other people. A person that is not overly shy is not too concerned about whether the new person he meets likes him or not. He is realistic. He knows he cannot be liked by everyone. If he experiences situations where he is not liked, he does not necessarily blame himself. He may come to the conclusion that the other person is difficult or expects too much.
Many shy people have handicaps. A stutterer is shy. Somerset Maugham had a stutter, yet it did not stop him from producing some of the greatest literature of his time. If you accept your physical handicaps, others will too. Self-confidence is the antidote to shyness. Structure your suggestions accordingly.
5. AM I SARCASTIC? Sarcasm usually represents over compensation for feeling of insecurity. If you are sarcastic, you are over defensive. You are afraid of being insulted, rejected or disliked by someone, so you beat them to the punch. You act toward a person as you think he might act toward you. You insult the person you think does not like you, as if to say, "Look, I don't like you either." If you are sarcastic, you are acting out of insecurity. Your job is to build up your own self-image so you will not need to be sarcastic.
6. AM I OVERLY CRITICAL? You are overly critical if you are stingy with your compliments, or are afraid to approve of something, or to say something nice about someone's achievements. Also, you feel you have become a more important person by having something critical to say. If you are overly critical of others, you may have a tendency toward perfectionism. If everything is not just right -- that is, the way you want it -- you are uncomfortable. You are unable to tolerate anyone else doing a thing less perfectly than yourself.
7. DO I POSSESS A DISTORTED SENSE OF VALUES? We are living in a time when emphasis is placed on material things. We are more concerned about being considered successful financially than successful in character. Not that material things are insignificant, but if they have been your major emphasis and you feel unhappy, cheated by life, or as if something is missing, it is a good indication that you need to begin to develop an appreciation for things of the mind. When did you last read a good book, or go to an art gallery?
Sometimes a woman's distorted sense of value may take the form of too great an emphasis on beauty. Becoming more beautiful or staying young can become an obsession. This does not mean that it is not important to look as good as you can, but beauty, when it becomes the end-all of life to the exclusion of improvement of the mind and spirit, leaves the person miserable in spite of beauty. When a man works excessive hours and worries excessively about his business until he has a heart attack, he becomes a victim of his distorted sense of values.
8. DO I SUFFER FROM AN INFERIORITY COMPLEX? To have an inferiority complex is understandable, but to remain inferior is unforgivable and needless. This is one of the easiest conditions to change through self-hypnosis and autosuggestion. Study something that makes you an expert. Gain confidence by doing. Learn to take pride in what you do.
9. AM I ADRIFT WITHOUT GOALS IN LIFE? The saddest people in the world are those who have no goals. They are constantly asking, "What is there to live for?" The woman who is struggling in a poorly paid job to help her son through college will never commit suicide. She has a goal. She is happy and proud. The man or woman who has no responsibilities, who is well paid, and whose only concern is what entertainment he or she can fine for the evening, is much more apt to have a mental break down.
There must be a goal -- a realistic goal that can be obtained. Richard Nixon had a goal; to be President. He failed in it, yet he kept trying. He failed again in a lesser goal, the governorship of California. But the goal still fascinated him, and after years of thinking, planning, and being sustained by his goal, he tried again and won.
|The instructions presented are from the personal collections and writing library of Mr. Robert E. Cutter, who died December 13, 2001, while in the process of completing the transfer of his work to the internet. These are offered as educational instruction only. The purpose of this instruction is the effective learning and use of hypnotic techniques for vocational or avocational self-improvement. This instruction is not offered as a substitute for, nor as a supplement to, any form of therapy concerned with physical, mental, nervous or emotional illness. Robert E. Cutter served as web consultant for American Psychotherapy and Medical Hypnosis Association for three years. His hypnosis education came through the training he provided at a school he owned in the 1950's in Los Angeles, California, along with his wife who preceded him in death in 1980. Robert Cutter was not a psychologist and did not practice psychotherapy, but his interest in hypnosis motivated him to provide free resources materials for others who wanted to learn to use the power of their minds to improve well being and health-related issues.|
Michael A. Robinson, R.N.- BC Psychiatry
Licensed Texas State Nursing Board Registered Nurse
Texas State Nursing Board Certified in Psychiatry
In Honor and Memory of Robert E. Cutter, B.S. 1923-d.2001
From the Writings of Robert Cutter's Self Hypnosis Center
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