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In order to achieve a goal you must first have a goal. Many people really have no goals in life; they just seem to drift along with the tide. Their lives lack direction and as a result, they don't achieve much. People that know them often recognize that they are very capable people and lament the tragedy that they are not more goal directed and more successful. At the other extreme are people who constantly set their goals so very high that it is impossible to achieve them. Such people are chronically tense and miserable, because they are continually failing. Every unrealized goal is a failure. Even if they should achieve a goal, they feel it took longer than they had planed, and is therefore another failure. Such people are unable to relax, they constantly drive themselves. They may accomplish a great deal, but they never enjoy it. The fact that they were unable to achieve as much as soon as they wanted prevents them from enjoying their achievements. They become old before their time, their energy and vitality sapped by tension and anxiety. Their disillusionment turns to cynicism and depression.
Both of the above types suffer from the same basic problem. They are both unable to set realistic goals to guide them through life. Quite often the person who drifts with the tide sets very low goals or no goals at all. Usually this is due to the fear of failure. He has learned that failure causes him to become anxious and depressed. If he does not set any goals, he can't fail. However, both types end up in defeat.
In addition to setting goals that are too high or too low, you can set goals that are so vaguely formulated that you have no way of knowing if you have achieved your goal or not. Since such people are unable to really define their goals and are therefore unable to recognize them even if they should reach them, they automatically assume they have failed. Such a person may decide that his goal in life is to become successful. He expends all his energy and time trying to achieve "success." Ask him to define success and he can only give you a vague idea of what it is, but he "knows" that when he finds it he will recognize it. Success is just a word that symbolizes an abstract concept; there is no such thing as success in the real world, yet this is the one thing he wants -- success. Since it does not exist he can only fail. All anyone can hope to achieve is a series of relative successes and not some mysterious thing called success.
Your task, if you have not already done so, is to set good, realistic goals for yourself. They give direction to your life; give you a feeling of accomplishment and success as you achieve them.
In order to understand the process of setting realistic goals, you need to realize that there are LONG-TERM and SHORT-TERM goals. Long-term goals refer to major things we wish to accomplish eventually in our lives. Short-term goals refer to things we must do more or less immediately. Long-term goals are generally achieved by accomplishing many short-term goals. For example, say a person wants to become a chemist. This is a long-term goal. In order to achieve this long-term goal many short-term goals, such as, entering college, selecting the proper courses, passing tests, completing assignments, accumulating a sufficient number of credit hours, obtaining a college degree, and finding employment must be accomplished.
The Following Rules Will Help You Set Good Long-Term Goals
|The instructions presented are from the personal collections and writing library of Mr. Robert E. Cutter, who died December 13, 2001, while in the process of completing the transfer of his work to the internet. These are offered as educational instruction only. The purpose of this instruction is the effective learning and use of hypnotic techniques for vocational or avocational self-improvement. This instruction is not offered as a substitute for, nor as a supplement to, any form of therapy concerned with physical, mental, nervous or emotional illness. Robert E. Cutter served as web consultant for American Psychotherapy and Medical Hypnosis Association for three years. His hypnosis education came through the training he provided at a school he owned in the 1950's in Los Angeles, California, along with his wife who preceded him in death in 1980. Robert Cutter was not a psychologist and did not practice psychotherapy, but his interest in hypnosis motivated him to provide free resources materials for others who wanted to learn to use the power of their minds to improve well being and health-related issues.|
Michael A. Robinson, R.N.- BC Psychiatry
Licensed Texas State Nursing Board Registered Nurse
Texas State Nursing Board Certified in Psychiatry
In Honor and Memory of Robert E. Cutter, B.S. 1923-d.2001
From the Writings of Robert Cutter's Self Hypnosis Center
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